Ten Things You Ought to Know Before Dating an Asian Girl

Ten Things You Ought to Know Before Dating an Asian Girl

Normal dating rules apply.

  • Punctuality is important in most Asian cultures, so be on time and let her know as soon as possible if you need to reschedule. Politeness counts!
  • Start with places and activities that allow you to talk and easily hear each other.
  • As you get to know each other, refine your choices to do things you can both enjoy or alternate activities, so you can get to know each other better.

Be Honest with Yourself

Have a clear understanding of what you want from a relationship and what you’re willing and able to put into it. Consider how realistic your expectations are. Popular stereotypes depicting Asian girls as exotic mistresses or quiet, submissive girlfriends don’t reflect reality. Most Asian girls don’t appreciate being objectified. Respect her as the person she is, and if your relationship goes deep enough, the right girlfriend will want to know about and explore what turns you on.

Be Honest with Her

Start by letting her know how you spend your time and what activities you enjoy. Try to find a good balance of casual conversation and open-ended questions that encourage her to share more about herself. Talk about what you are hoping for in a relationship, but don’t get too personal too soon unless she asks you about specific things. Pretending you are someone or something you’re not is never a good idea!

Try to Understand the Culture Your Asian Girl Grew Up in

You don’t have to know everything there is to know, but showing some interest in learning about her culture and having a sense of how connected she feels to that culture is very important. She might fully embrace it, love some things and not others, or she might want to get as far away from it as possible. Don’t expect her to be your sole source of information, and don’t pressure her.

If You Love Asian Culture, Don’t Assume She Enjoys it Too

Don’t try to impress her or her friends or family by calling attention to how much you know or appreciate that cultural thing you love. Casually sharing that you have some interest or knowledge if it comes up in conversation is ok. If you’re lucky and she also happens to be totally into something you enjoy, that’s the perfect time to share your passion with her.

Don’t Assume an Asian Girl is Fluent in Any Particular Language

Don’t be surprised if she is fluent either! These are both terrible assumptions. Also, many Asian languages and styles of communication are less direct and depend on the context or shared understanding. Listen carefully to learn as much as you can.

Food is Extremely Important

This refers to various types of family meals and the many specialty food items found in various Asian cuisines. Knowing her favorite foods, especially the comfort foods she enjoys will prove how much you really care. Also, it’s not always the case. Still, she doesn’t be surprised if she’s a sentimental foodie or gets into arguments about things like rice cookers, enjoys culinary tourism, or wants to share pictures of everything she eats with her friends!

Dating an Asian Girl Means Eventually Meeting Her Asian Family

Sooner or later, you’re probably going to meet her friends and relations. There’s no way to predict how they’ll respond to you. Some will welcome you with open arms, and others may criticize you without mercy. Hold your ground, but try to be flexible and understanding. A willingness to accept or at least compromise around different cultural values will make you more a more desirable companion

Having an Open Mind is the Best Tool in Your Toolbox

Trying things you’ve never eaten before, exploring places you’ve never been to, and embracing differences, you don’t quite understand or agree with are all good attributes, regardless of the type of girl she is. If you are honest and kind, you can win her heart.